Paul Fursman
Family & Divorce
“Mum! Dad! We got a Letter from a Judge”
As we all know, separations and divorces can be messy, but also a difficult time for the parents and the children. In a recent family case before Recorder John McKendrick KC at the Central Family Court two parents disagreed about where the children should live, how contact should be shared between the parents and where they should go to school.
The Court had considered the children’s wishes, however, ultimately felt it would be best for the children to have equal time with both parents and to remain in London (with both parents) as opposed to moving to Somerset with their mother.
In what people who have commented to be a “fabulous idea”, “simply wonderful” and “a fantastic letter”, the Judge wrote to the children explaining his decision and telling them that the decision was his and not their parents. You can read the letter below.
Jas Pannu, Solicitor in the Family Team, said:
“I think this is a brilliant way for children to understand that both parents want what is best for them, but if this cannot be agreed, it is the Court’s decision. This Judge will definitely be remembered by the children, and even though they did not get to move to Somerset like they had wanted, they will understand why, without any resentment for either parent. I imagine this small act helped these two young boys in what has been a difficult time.
It is also a powerful reminder of the impact that arguing and disputes between parents has on their children and that the best thing that parents can do for their children is to stop “the crap” and try to co parent amicably.”